Happy National Orgasm Day: Here’s 15 ways to have more powerful climaxes during sex

The majority of women don’t orgasm through penetrative sex – here’s some ideas for changing that (Picture: B2M Productions)

Happy National Orgasm Day! Today’s the perfect time to share with you some straight forward, no-nonsense ways to go hard or go home.

Sex is obviously pleasurable but sometimes the finish line is weak… or you can’t finish at all.

Ladies, if you’re having trouble, a few simple changes to your routine can give you more powerful orgasms in no time.

1. All day foreplay

Getting heated doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Text your partner in the middle of the day with a naughty pic or details of an erotic surprise that you’ll have waiting for them when they get home.

2. Kegel Queen
The muscle you use to stop a wee also enhances orgasm. Clench and release to strengthen it. Whether you’re bored at work or stopped in traffic, this is a workout you can do anytime, anywhere.

3. Set the mood

Inspire sensuality with the perfect props for pleasure. Try some soft silky sheets, scented candles and a luxurious massage oil to set the mood.





Just keep them out the way unless you want to set your hair and/or the curtains on fire (Picture: ruzanna)

4. Play adult dress-up

Make any night a special occasion. Indulge a sexy fantasy, put all eyes on you and set the stage for seduction with some gorgeous lingerie. This private costume party can make even the tamest ladies feel sexy, seductive and scandalous.

5. Explore erogenous zones

There’s so much more to naughty than what’s under your knickers. Explore the nipples, neckline, earlobes, lower back, shoulders and thighs to heighten your senses well before your drawers drop.

6. Get dirty

Step outside your comfort zone with some confident language. Let your partner know how much you want them, what you like, and of course, when you’re about to orgasm.

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How to Feel Good About Yourself

Feeling truly good about yourself means loving the person you are — inside and out. It takes hard work and some major adjustments to learn to accept yourself and to address the unhappiness in your life. If you want to feel good about yourself, it starts with changing your attitude. After that, you can work on creating a lifestyle that makes you feel valuable, loved, and fulfilled.

There are three parts in doing this, that is Changing your Perspective , Taking action and then Making it stick.

1. Changing Your Perspective : 

Don't waste time comparing yourself to others. It will only lower your confidence and bring you down. There's no one out there just like you, who has grown up with your experiences and who has your talents. If you try to compare yourself to other people, you will inevitably end up feeling bad about yourself, because you can always find someone who is stronger, smarter, or prettier than you. Instead, focus on being the person that you want to become, not like your neighbor, the cool girls in your high school, or your older sister. Once you define your own version of success, you'll be able to achieve it.

• You may feel like everyone around you has it better off than you do. The problem is, you probably tend to focus on your weaknesses over your strengths, and may not even realize all of the things you have going for you. You may be wishing you were more like your best friend, who has so much confidence, while she has been wishing to have your brains or sense of humor all along.
  
  2. Develop your confidence. Confidence is the key to feeling good about yourself and to loving the person you are and will become. Unfortunately, it can't be developed overnight, but you can make an effort to follow a path that will lead you to feeling confident in who you are and what you can achieve. You have to remind yourself that you're an amazing person and that it doesn't matter what anyone says; if you think you're worth it, then you are. Here are some ways that you can develop your confidence:
• Perk up your body language. Stand taller, stop slouching, look straight ahead instead of at the ground. Stop fidgeting or folding your arms across your chance and you'll give off a more positive, approachable vibe. Better yet, you'll be able to make yourself feel more confident.
• Find something to really excel at, or work on excelling in something you already love. You'll feel better about yourself if you're good at something!
• Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself instead of putting you down.
•  When you're entering an unknown situation, focus on the best thing that can possibly happen instead of what can go wrong.

3. Take pride in your strengths. Surely there must be something you can feel good about! Take the time to sit down and make a list of all of the things you love about yourself. Force yourself to sit there until you fill a whole page. We don't mean writing about how perfect your fingernails are, but about digging deep to find the things that really make you an amazing person. Think of qualities like your compassion, your sense of humor, your strength, or your ability to work hard at anything you do. The longer and more sincere the list, the better.

• Some qualities you can include are: loving, studious, hardworking, friendly, strong, clever, sharp, easygoing, and fun.
• Keep this list nearby and consult it often to continue feeling good. You can even fold it up and put it in your wallet.
• Add to the list any time you think of something else you're proud of.
• Heck, if you love your hair or your eyes, you can write down those things too. Not everything on the list has to be super serious.
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• 4. Don't be down on yourself for having bad days. Sometimes you just have to live with the bad feelings and just know they'll pass. If you feel seriously sad, be sure to talk to an adult who cares about you. Also, when you're in a bad mood, your body knows it. Think about which part of your body gets out of whack when you're crabby or upset. Do you get a stomach ache when you're nervous about a test? Do you get a headache when you feel anxious? If you recognize your body's signals, you may be able to figure out what's bothering you and make yourself feel better.
• People think that, to feel good about themselves, they have to feel amazing 100% of the time. This is just impossible. If you're having a bad day, especially if it's after a string of great days, then don't be hard on yourself and know that this too will pass.
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  5. Work on developing a positive attitude. You may be thinking, "Ha! If only it were that easy!" If you could just flip on a switch and be all positive all the time, you wouldn't have done it, right? Well, that's where you're wrong. Developing a positive attitude is just as much a decision as something you're born with. You can work on recognizing when your thoughts are overly negative and turn them around to lead yourself to a healthier mindset. If you have a more positive attitude, then you'll feel better about yourself, as well as your future prospects and all that you can accomplish. Here are some ways you can do it:
• For every negative thought that crosses your mind, fight it with at least two or three positive thoughts. For example, if you think, "I look so tired today," you can say, "But my hair looks pretty great and I still have an amazing smile." On a deeper level, if you think something like, "I am just so awkward in social situations," you should say, "But I usually know how to make people laugh and people seem really comfortable around me."
• Practice talking about yourself positively to your friends. You don't have to brag to talk about something you've accomplished or something you're excited about. You'll find that your optimism is contagious, and that you'll feel better about yourself just by talking about it out loud.
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  6. Know that you have a lot to offer. You may feel bad about yourself because you may feel like you're completely useless or like no one needs you. Well, this is rarely the case! Talk to your friends and loved ones to see how needed you really are, and how much people appreciate you. Let your family members know how you're feeling, and they'll come back at you with a list of all of the amazing qualities that you posses. Talk to your friends about your problems and they'll tell you you're crazy; they couldn't have done anything without you!
• The more you remember that you're a worthy person who anyone is lucky to know, the sooner you'll realize that you have so much to offer. And if you feel valued, then you'll be on your way to feeling better about yourself.

7.  Make a list of all of the things you're thankful for. You may feel bad about yourself because you feel like you have absolutely nothing to be happy about. Feeling bad about yourself doesn't have to do with just your perception of who you are, but with how you feel about your surroundings. If you practice making a gratitude list, writing down all of the things you're thankful for, from your health to your siblings to the lovely weather outside, you'll soon see that you have no reason to feel bad — there is so much joy, luck, and hope all around you, if you know where to look!

• Treat this list like the list of qualities you love about yourself. Fill a whole page and read it over often, adding to it whenever you think of something else.

8. Don't obsess about your appearance. Everyone is beautiful in their own special way. It's fine to want to see what's changing and to daydream about who you're becoming. But spending too much time in front of the mirror — or peeking at your reflection in every mirror you pass — is not worth it. You've got better things to do! If you want to feel good about yourself, then you should maintain a healthy and put-together look without making your looks your main priority; if you spend all your time wishing you looked perfect, then you'll never find happiness or peace.

• One way to do this is to limit your face time. Say that you'll spend 10-15 minutes doing your hair and makeup and looking in the mirror before you go out. If you spend any more time than that on yourself, you are bound to find flaws where none exist.

 9. Stop caring about what people think. Have you been hurt by words? Remember this: People who insult others usually do it to make themselves be powerful. Know what that means? They're probably insecure. They are the ones who lack confidence, so try not to bend into the pressure to return their jabs with an insult. The best thing you can do to annoy these people is to live your life exactly how you want to live it without looking back.

• Of course, not caring about what people think is easier said than done. Instead of being in denial about caring, ask yourself what is at the heart of wanting to please other people. Ask yourself if the people who hurt you are worth impressing. Soon enough, you'll see that they are only an obstacle to your happiness, not a means toward it.

2. Taking Action

1. Tell your family and friends about your accomplishments. When you accomplish something you're really proud of — whether it's passing a tough test or finishing a winning soccer season — that's when you're at your most beautiful. Give yourself a pat on the back! Call a grandparent or e-mail a favorite aunt to share the news. Celebrate with family and friends. This will make you routinely feel better about who you are, because you'll have other people cheering you on.

• Don't be afraid that this feels like bragging. If you're just talking to your loved ones, it's not. And chances are that if you want to feel good about yourself, then you're not really known for bragging all the time.

2. Accept compliments genuinely. When your friend says,"You look great," don't brush her off with "I think these pants make me goofy." Just say "Thanks," and let the words sink in. If you're self-deprecating or put yourself down any time people try to make you feel good, then they'll stop doing it. Instead, the next time you hear something nice about yourself, look and feel legitimately happy to hear it instead of fighting it.

• Look the person in the eye and say "thank you" like you really mean it.

3. Celebrate taking care of yourself. Take time today to pamper your skin with great-smelling soap or lotion. Clean and cut your nails. You don't have to spend hours looking in the mirror — taking a long, relaxing bath will be far better for you. Putting in real time and care into your hygiene will make you feel that you are worth taking care of. This is different from throwing on a lot of makeup or buying trendy outfits; this means seeing that your body should be given time and care.

• Heck, if you want to get a massage to get rid of some of that tension, go for it! It will definitely make you feel better, both physically and mentally.

4. Wear clothes that make you feel good. You know which shirt makes you feel self-conscious and which pants make you squirm — it's time to donate those to charity. Wear your favorite color, and choose colors that will fit your skin, eye and hair color. If you feel great in it, your confidence will show! If someone teases you about the clothes you wear, shrug it off and say, "Oh well, at least I like them!" Remember: People aren't looking at you or talking about you nearly as much as you think they are.

• Don't wear clothes that make you feel ridiculous just because you think they are stylish. Do what makes you feel good and everyone will see that you're much more comfortable in your skin that way.

5. Develop your own style. Experiment with clothing to see what makes you feel the best. Some days you might feel fancy — other days you won't! That's OK. This week, visit a clothing store with a friend and pick out five new outfits in colors and styles you'd never consider wearing. Then have fun trying them on! Don't be surprised if something you thought would look awful actually looks good on you. Have a laugh at the ones you don't like.

• Though changing your style alone won't make you feel good about yourself, it can help you discover a side of yourself you never knew you had.
• Also try a new hairdo. Girls can braid their hair, twist it, or wear it in a bun. Guys can go for a shaggier look or a shorter cut. Experiment! You can express yourself through your appearance and no one way is right. They're all you.  
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6. Be friends with people who make you feel good about yourself. Try to change the subject if your friends start talking about their weight or diet. Show them that there are more interesting things to talk about, such as how their soccer team is doing and how old their little golden retriever pup is this month. If you always find yourself in company that obsesses over appearance, try to change the conversation to less superficial matters. And if you can't do that, then you may have to find some friends with stronger values.

• Ask yourself if your friends are mostly complimenting you and supporting you, or nit-picking everything you do. If they are negative about you, then you need to drop them as soon as you can. This may sound harsh, but this can lead you to feel better about yourself.

7. Learn something new. Read a good article about something going on in the world. You will feel like you are knowledgeable about some current events, and it will give you a sense of self-importance. This will also help you get out of your routine and feel like you're branching out. Take a pottery class or watch a documentary. Do something that inspires you to learn and appreciate the world. Soon, you'll feel empowered because of your willingness to change and all of the knowledge you've gained.

• If you've learned something really interesting, share it with others. That will make you feel like you have even more to offer to the world.

8. Exercise. Exercising will make you feel better both physically and mentally. Though losing weight or getting in shape alone won't make a difference, it will make you feel like you are paying more attention to your body and developing a healthy routine. Plus, the rush of endorphins that make you happier won't hurt! Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day and learn to love whatever it is you'll do. You'll feel good about yourself just by making this simple change in your schedule.

• Get a workout buddy or two to make the process more fun and encouraging. You'll feel even better if you have a friend cheering you on when you don't feel like working out.

3. Making It Stick

1. Volunteer. Though you shouldn't volunteer just to feel good about yourself, volunteering is a great way to give back to the community and to see that you have so much to offer to the world. Find a form of volunteering that fits your talents, whether it's teaching people to read or just talking to them, and make a habit of doing it at least a few times a month. Once you start volunteering, you'll see that there are plenty of people who think you are worthwhile, and that you shouldn't have spent so much time being down on yourself. Here are some great ways to get involved:

• Teach adults or children to read
• Clean up a local park
• Volunteer at a local library or bookstore
• Volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. 
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2. Keep a journal. Keeping a journal can help you go down your path to feeling good about yourself. You should write in it at least once or twice a week and chart your progress, noting the things you do to make yourself feel better as well as those that make you feel worse. It doesn't have to be a set path and there will always be some obstacles or days when you don't feel so great. It's important to be honest and to always ask yourself what can make you feel better.

• Remember that you're on a journey and that it will take some time. Be patient and kind to yourself. Don't expect too much at once.
• Take the time to read over your journal at least once a month. This will help you see how much you have grown.

3. Cheer yourself up when you need it. If it's daytime, open up the window and let in some fresh air and sunlight. If it's nighttime, put on some clean pajamas and curl up with a favorite book, movie, or CD. Feeling stressed? Take a warm bath or shower. Imagine the water washing away your worries. Also try to create your own peace rituals. When you're angry or stressed out, take three long, slow, deep breaths. Turn on some of your favorite music. Find ways to calm your spirit, and return to those practices whenever you feel anxious.

• Don't be in denial about being upset. The sooner you can address the problem, the sooner you'll feel better.
• Find the best "cheer up" routine for yourself so you know exactly what to do when you're feeling down.
• Sometimes, the best thing you can do to feel good about yourself is to take a break and have a silly night with your friends.

 4. Start a dream list. Find a pretty notebook and write down places you'd like to visit, experiences you'd like to have, people you'd like to meet, and skills you'd like to learn. A dream list is a great start to creating a life filled with fun, adventure, and interesting experiences. Put a box next to each item on your list so you can check it off when it happens. Having an exciting plan for the future, and making it a priority to actually accomplish it, can help you feel good about yourself because you'll feel like you have a lot to look forward to.

• Make sure the adventures on your list are actually attainable, no matter how outlandish they are. You don't want to discourage yourself by writing down something you can never accomplish.

5. Get inspired by a role model. Think about what it would take to live like your role model, whether it's your mom, Shakira, or your math teacher. Take the course of action as you think - how generously he/she treats people, how he/she reacts to disappointing/insulting situations, how graciously they live every tiny moment of life & enjoy the purpose of living. Especially if you are feeling low, close your eyes and imagine how your role model would have handled the situation.

• Using an outside source of inspiration can help you envision what you would do in challenging situations, and will make you feel like you can overcome adversity.

6.  Maintain a strong support network. If you want to continue feeling good about yourself, then you can't do it alone. You have to lean on your friends, siblings, parents, significant other (if you have one), and any other important people in your life, such as your coworkers or neighbors. You need to turn to people in times of crisis and have a listening ear help you out when you don't know what to do. You also just want to keep good, kindhearted people around so you can feel excited about what life has in store for you.

• Though achieving your goals is important, so is being social! Make it a habit to spend time with other people at least a few times a week. Anyone is bound to get down in the dumps if he spends all day by himself.
• It's important to spend time with your loved ones, but there is always time to meet new people! Having a variety of friends and loved ones in your life will enhance your perspective and will make you feel even better about yourself.

Sex & Relationship: How do you let a man know he doesn't satisfy you in bed?

From a female reader...

What's the easiest way to let your man know you don't enjoy sex with him and you need him to improve without offending him? I have a high sexual libido and I doubt I will be faithful to any man who can't give it to me well. This is the man I intend to marry and I would really like to be faithful but my sexual satisfaction is very important to me. When he gives me head, he pretends to use his tongue when I know it's his fingers. He's also not big on foreplay and doesn't last long. He always leaves me unsatisfied after every sexual encounter. How do I let him understand without offending him? And can he even get better or is this how it will always be? Na only me waka come, make I know now so that only me go start to dey waka go

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10 Qualities Men Want In A Woman

Believe it or not, you don’t have to be model-thin and wear the hottest designer fashions to attract a good man. Actually, the kind of man that is interested in those things is probably kind of shallow. A lot of guys can tell from a first date whether a lady is one that he would want to take home to mama. Here are the real things that guys look for in a keeper.

1. Smarts. The airhead is out and the brainiac is in. A dude worth having wants a lady on his arm that can hold a conversation and hold her own in the world. He wants a true partner.

2. Confidence. Believe it – no guy wants a clingy girl. A real man wants a woman who knows how to carry herself with confidence and dignity.

5 ways to avoid marrying the wrong person

Marriage is the second most important decision on earth.
The person you marry will determine how happy, successful and how long you live on earth. It could even determine your eternal destination.

1. Make sure it is love and not infatuation: Love is a decision to care and be with somebody no matter what the other person does or does not do.
Love is a decision, not a feeling. “love does no wrong to one’s neighbor, love suffers long, love is kind, it believes all things, bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things, seeks not its own, thinks no evil.’’
Love is that thing that will remain, when other things are gone. Anytime you are in a relationship and the person is always insisting on his or her own, the person is not in love. Any man or woman that wants you to commit any sin is not in love.

Dear readers: I have no love for my husband

I need advice from matured minds please.I will make the long story short..
I married at the age of 18yrs, and my husband is 19years olders than me. I already have 2 boys and 2 girls for him. We both came from a very rich family so money it not the issue here.
My problem is this, for some couple of years I found out that I have no atom of love for him. I just don't know how this happened but that's just how I feel. I am 33 yrs old now and I guess I am old enough and I have realized that I made a very big and expensive mistake in my life.

20 things women should never, ever, do

1. Do not shave off your eyebrows only to redraw them with a pencil… it makes no sense

2. Do not put on too much make up, you end up looking like you came out of the make-up factory.

3. Do not wear a vest or sleeveless top without shaving your armpits or without a bra underneath

4. Do not leave chipped nail polish to wear off on its own, there's a reason why they sell nail polish
remover.
5. If you can’t afford good quality weaves, don’t bother.

6. Do not do artificial nails that makes you look like a drag queen, simple is always sexy.

7. See-through leggings or a top used as a dress when you are out in public is a hell-to-the-no!

8. Never do things for a man with a hope of getting something in return, expectations are
dangerous. Do it because you simply want to.

9. Never contradict what your man says - in public. #SOFTNIZ

10. Never stalk the man that left you for the other woman

11. Do not share your best friend's personal life with every Tom, Dick and Harry.

12. "Women should never act on distress in relationships like checking your man’s phone, nagging him to death, and acting like a paranoid freak. You will simply release him to someone else by doing so." by joshua mbaga

13. "Never dish out your entire family drama on a first date. The guy just wants to know about you."--warns Joshua Mbaga!

14. Stop obsessing over your body. It’s good to eat healthy and work out but let's leave it at that.

15. Never over-accessorize. stop looking like a Christmas tree.wololo

16. Never leave home without lipgloss, your phone and most of all, your dignity.

17. Never leave your used sanitary towel in the toilet for the next person to see. Women please!

18. Never wear very high heels if you can’t do the Naomi Campbell walk. You look like a drunk
grasshopper.

19. Never wear short skirts and low cut tops when off to an interview. You will create the wrong
impression.

20. And finally, 'Never wish to be like any other woman. There are others out there envying you
for who you are' - Author unknown

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Nollywood's Stella Damasus advices women on how to keep their men

Actress Stella Damasus took to her Adiva blog yesterday to advice women on how to keep their men. Read it below;

Keeping Your Man - By Stella Damasus
Hello ladies,
Been a while since you read from me and I am sorry about that. However I never said I would be the only one writing for this blog. I threw it open to members to send in their articles, concerns, challenges, questions and other things to the Adiva email address and we will publish it.
Not only that, we will get the experts/professionals to help answer some of your questions, I am still waiting to hear from you all.
Anyway I have good news and that is the fact that you will be able to watch me talk more/elaborate on things I will write in the blog. Yes o my YouTube channel will be very very active soon with my new project called Stella's diaries.

5 Things women hate to hear

Communication is very important in every relationship…particularly, there are words, phrases and sentences that either partner does not like to hear. Generally, here are five things women hate to hear:
1. You are really getting fat: A woman knows when she is adding weight. I mean, she checks the mirror everyday, so she knows when her cheeks are getting too puffy or when her waistline is disappearing. Simply put, you don’t have to rub it in again…only encourage her to lose the weight. Don’t forget to tell her that she is always beautiful too…!
2. “Is it that time of the month?”: Okay, so the fact that scientists have proven that women get edgy when they are on their periods does not mean that you should attribute every of her actions to “that time of the month. Every time you do that, you only make her seem irrational.
3. Cheesy pick-up lines: You know what I mean…doesn’t make any woman feel special in any way…
4. Hey [gorgeous, baby, mama, boo, etc...]: Most women do not respond well to strangers who start off by calling them baby, gorgeous, beautiful, sexy, babe, dear, or any other condescending and objectifying term.
5. “My ex used to love it when I…”: Well, you should get over your ex before going into another relationship. Comparing a woman to your ex is one thing you definitely can do to spoil her day!
Never forget, words hurt…and are memorable too. So try as much as possible to treat your woman in a special way with your words…
I forgot to add this: “I am broke” lol

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8 qualities you need to keep your relationship/marriage

Every gift, talent, knowledge, idea, skill that you possess, that you have gained while you are single should be beneficial to your spouse.
While you’re waiting for that special person God has prepared for you, there is a need for you to learn and possess certain virtues that will help while in marriage. These virtues will help in preserving and keeping strong your marriage. They are:

PATIENCE
You need this virtue in times when things don’t work out as planned in marriage, when there is a delay in expected outcomes in every area of marriage, when you’ve put in all efforts and it seems results are not forthcoming and when you have expectations from your spouse and it’s not forth coming as it ought to in certain areas of your marriage.

[Relationships] 7 reasons women lose respect for men

If a woman loses respect for you as a man, she will also lose attraction and begin to fall out of love with you. It might’ve taken you a long time to find “the one” that you’re now in love with, but unless you’re careful about avoiding the following mistakes, she’ll soon be thinking about backing out of the relationship for good. Let’s have some clues…

1. Belittling Her in Public
Playful teasing each other in private can be a fun aspect to your relationship, especially if it’s kept light and you both have understand each other’s sense of humor. Too often though, some men will belittle their woman in front of their friends or family in a way that she feels is cruel and sincerely harmful to her confidence and sense of pride and comfort in front of others.
In an effort to “show off” to his friends or because he believes that some “habit” his girl has is silly, some guys will say hurtful things about their girlfriend/wife. Even if it’s done when she’s not there, what the man says about his woman is probably going to get back to her eventually and she will feel betrayed and lose respect for him when it does.

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How to make your love relationship last longer

At a stage in relationships, things seem to get boring and unexciting and couples realize they are doing things that used to be special to them now purely out of habit.

The sparks which used to fly has now disappeared and the earlier excitement now seems to have flown out of the window.

Here’s something exciting for you, there are very easy ways you can make your relationship feel like the beginning and continue to feel like the beginning.

Do go back to the beginning: The best way you can make things feel like they were in the beginning is by simply taking a trip to the beginning. Do things you used to do for each other that used to send your heart racing for each other.

If it was the surprise dates, do them. If it was buying her that her fave box of chocolates, do it. If it was surprising him with his fave perfumes or tickets to see his fave band/artiste play, then do it.

Those things would make you feel excited once again and would give both of you the time to enjoy each other’s company once more without distraction of the kids or work or whatever.

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See The Main Reason Why Many Ladies End Up Single

The information you will read below will help your life in many ways if you can apply them with wisdom:

1. Many African ladies will end up singles for life because of media exposure-
it is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell, what else will dominate this lady's mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?

2. Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores-
just because they have been brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that's aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?

"Ladies, a man will treat you the way you carry yourself" - Keri Hilson

Keri Hilson dishes relationship advice. She says if you want to attract a gentleman, keep it classy.

"I often wonder if more girls were willing to be ladies, more guys would feel challenged to be gentlemen.
Ladies don’t get it twisted. It DOES start with YOU!! Unfortunately, every man doesn’t possess some standard high amount of respect for every woman they encounter…just as every woman doesn’t exude the same amount of confidence, class, or self respect. This is not a perfect world, where men treat “hoes” with the same respect they give “ladies” just because their mother taught them well.
Bottom line is, a man will treat you according to the “messages” YOU put out there. That’s the way of the world…reality. If you exude sex, you will attract men who want that from you. If you exude self respect, you will attract the type of men who respect women. In this world, you attract what you exude. Ladies, WE set the tone!! NEVER forget that!! We have the power to change our experiences with men.”

 Do you agrees with her?

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75 Ways to Show Love in Relationships

Here is a beautiful love list, they are so on point and they are things that anybody can do and have a lot of fun while doing at it. The author is Nea  a life coach and self help blogger. 

Enjoy and remember to try them out, they're really cool! 

 1. A kiss on the forehead
2. Uninterrupted quality time
3. A note under the pillow
4. Tell him when he looks masculine, sexy, or hot
5. Turn a regular day into an All-About-You day just for your mate
6. Breakfast served in bed
7. A romantic picnic indoors
8. An unexpected dinner cruise
9. Propose marriage on one knee
10. Don’t complain when he leaves the toilet seat up
11. A rose on the pillow
12. Tell her she’s beautiful
13. Pour on the chivalry (open doors, pull her chair out)
14. A bubble bath with rose petals and her favorite scented candles

What is Delaying Your Ring? 10 Surefire Ways To Get Him to Pop the Question

Enjoy the funny article below;

It’s on blackberry messenger display pictures! It’s being posted on Instagram. Girls are getting hitched and flaunting that rock on their finger. Don’t dull in your father’s house and plan other people’s weddings! I am here to help you so you don’t become a last carrier. Do you have a boo? Do you want to be his Mrs? If you are desperate enough, try all ten or maybe a couple of the following suggestions.


Become His Mother’s Best Friend
Why are you spending those lazy Saturday afternoons gossiping with friends and catching up on the latest gist? Why are you following him to Cold Stone for ice-cream? Stop that now! Spend your Saturdays with your potential mum-in law. Go to the market, make her lunch and arrange her closet. That way, he’ll notice the bond between you and her. If he is a mama’s boy, you already have that ring.

Attend Every Family Function
Even if he just mentions it casually or doesn’t invite you, FIND the venue. That favourite aunt of his would notice you and start pestering him to marry you. Don’t forget to dress to kill and buy the Aso-Ebi where applicable.

Cook Your Heart Out.
Don’t waste his money on a buffet at Protea today and Thai food tomorrow. In fact you are wasting your children’s school fees on irrelevant dates. If you’re not able to cook, LEARN! Enroll yourself for catering classes. Furthermore, as our people say, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

10 Signs Showing He’s A Player

Here is an interesting article which i got from Yahoo, which i think would straighten-up alot of relationships. The aritcle would benefit the Girls making them identify the pot-holes in their relationship and for the boys, it would enable them covers their pot-holes..:-)

Check on it below;

The guy you’ve started seeing is hot, charming, smart, confident and a highly accomplished love-maker. Sounds great (actually, sounds like me) but you have a nagging doubt that it’s all too good to be true. A player (also: playa) is a particular breed of man who prefers not be tied down to just one woman, and every girl with breasts will get played by one at some point.

By definition, you’re statistically likely to date a player because they date more girls than other men. So you should know the signs to look out for – here are 10 of them…


1) Swagger
You were nervous on your first date whereas he seemed to take it all in his stride, which you found attractive.  But it’s probably just because he’s been on about a thousand dates and knows how to make them end in sex.

2) Sex pub
Most players will have a ‘sex pub’. This is a nice, romantic spot where they will always take girls because it creates an ambience that makes girls amenable to the idea of sex. You can tell he’s a regular if the bar staff know him by name or he’s memorised all the available crisp flavours. And you will like the sex pub – that’s why it’s a sex pub.

3) Availability
A player cannot always be physically available because he needs to divide his time between you and the other chicks he’s drilling. So he might only be free once a week, or less.

He might also often suggest meeting at short notice. Not because he’s spontaneous and exciting, but because one of his other girls has changed her plans and he’s calling you to fill her slot, so to speak.

4) Makes strange factual errors
The nature of a player’s lifestyle is that he’ll have multiple girls on the go at any given time, and this creates countless possibilities for confusion and factual slip-ups. If he thinks you like stick insects or your dad’s name is Alan – but it isn’t! – then it’s because he’s confused you with another girl. Likewise, he’ll never exactly remember what he’s told you about himself. For instance, he may tell you every time you see him that he trekked the Inca trail.

5) Online censorship
You’re at his house using his laptop and you check your Facebook. He’s logged out – always. The same goes for his email.

6) Phone
A player’s mobile is often used but rarely visible. Whenever he leaves the room, so does his phone.  Some players have two or more phones (although you’ll only ever see one of them). A really advanced player might leave his phone in full view on the bedside table while he’s in the toilet as an elaborate double bluff. That’s an example of the way many players are…

7) Clever
Which is why he’s able to get away with any of this. He’ll always cover his tracks, have a believable excuse and be adept at smooth-talking his way around discrepancies and accusations. Not all players are clever though. If you’re being played by one of the dimmer ones, that makes you even less clever than him.

8) Player paraphernalia
Flash car? Expensive watch? Silk sheets? Designer boxers? A real player will judge all purchases on whether they will increase his chances of having sex. You may think you can see past bling but don’t confuse a player with a pimp… a skilled player will own stuff that you actually like. He’ll smell nice too.

9) Friends
If you ask his mates/flatmates about him, they will clam up and give non-committal, monosyllabic answers, giving the impression they know virtually nothing about his life.

10) Communication
Texting is erratic. Give him a call at 9.32pm on a random night of the week and see if he answers…

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Source: Yahoo

Must Read: Nothing In Life Is More Important Than Your Family

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally
. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

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LADIES: Why Men LOVE Our Orgasm Face, How They Know We Are Faking And Top Tips On How To Perfect Yours

What part of the female body do men look at most during sex?

Breasts, bottom or other parts, right?

Wrong.

Studies show the part of our anatomy that men focus on most when watching women have sex, isn’t our ‘naughty bits’.

It’s our face.

Why?

Most men – justifiably – believe our facial expression provides the best possible indicator of whether or not we’re faking orgasm.

Our ‘orgasm face’ is something our parents rarely talked (or indeed thought) about, but it’s now a widely accepted term and topic.

Checkout This Touching Piece! From Bride's Father To Groom On Wedding Day

I got this video somewhere on the web and uploaded, couldn't keep it to myself ...cos it touched. wow! please enjoy the video below;

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